The first kiss you experience as a teenager can be exciting – or disappointing. If you kiss someone you like and find attractive, you are much more likely to have a good time than if you kiss someone just to “get it over with.”
Knowing When You’re Ready
The first kiss you share will be a pretty big event in your life, whether it takes place under the bleachers after a football game, under the porch lamp of your parents’ house, or under swirling lights at a school dance. In any case, it’s sure to happen in the near future, even if it hasn’t yet.
Teenagers should not rush into things, and that is good advice from most sound adults. When you’re done learning high school stuff, there will be plenty of time for kissing. Spending time worrying about when it will happen and/or scrambling to find someone to kiss you is a waste of time that could be spent working toward your future instead.
Waiting patiently for your first kiss will only make the moment of your first kiss even more exciting.
Get the Timing Right
You’ll know when you’re ready, no matter how cliche it sounds. There will be a special someone who makes you feel butterflies, who cares deeply for you and who also cares for you. You’ll have spent quality time with them and, who knows, you might already be dating.
Sooner or later, you will have that moment of clarity where you are simply ready to kiss them to express your feelings. When the right opportunity arises, all you have to do is wait.
First Kiss Statistics
The average age at which people have their first kiss is very little researched. Around 14% of first-year college students have never kissed another person, according to one study. It has been estimated that a first romantic kiss occurs at an average age of 15 years, although this age can vary depending on cultural norms (religion, societal expectations, etc.) and opportunities.
What a First Kiss Is Like
Your heart will pound so fast and loud you just know the other person can hear you. It’s kind of scary, kind of awkward, and kind of scary. The exception is when you are caught off guard by someone else and pulled into the moment before you realize what is happening.
The stories of first kisses are as unique as the people who tell them.
A Memorable Moment
First kisses can be incredible for some people, and not-so-great for others. You’re always going to remember being the first one, and if you can make a good story out of it, that’s even better! After it’s done, you’ll be like OMG! Because it’s going to feel weird (but a good kind of weird).
Everyone was overreacting to something that wasn’t that big of a deal. Once you’ve done it once, you’ll be excited to do it again.
How Do You Kiss for the First Time?
If your crush is ready to kiss you, he or she will tell you through their body language, such as touching your arm, leaning toward you when you speak, and making eye contact.
It’s All About Timing
You’re probably going to get kissed if they’re making constant body contact and being extra touchy-feely with you. After a date or meet-up, the biggest sign is when you say goodbye. In anticipation of a kiss, they may be lingering, muttering, and not making much sense. Whenever possible, go for the hug first just in case you misread the signs, and then as you’re pulling away, look them in the eye.
Eye Contact as a Clue
The kiss will occur naturally as you both lean forward when they look back at you and make eye contact. When you’re about to kiss, you can generally feel the chemistry – it’s the nervous anticipation on both sides – and you won’t want to miss it!
Initiating the First Kiss
In the event that a hug isn’t working for you, try one of these other tactics for getting your first kiss.
- “May I kiss you?” or “I want to kiss you.” Making your intentions clear also allows you to ask for consent before initiating a kiss.
- While looking directly into their eyes, lightly caress their cheek. Lean in and take a step forward.
- It is perfectly fine to go in for the kiss simply and boldly if you have consented to kiss them but have not yet done so. Try again later when the timing feels right (if they back away or tighten their bodies).
How Long It Lasts
You can extend your first kiss as long as you like. Most people’s first kisses don’t last very long due to nerves. You and your kissing partner should do what feels comfortable to you. You should take it at your own pace since they aren’t in a hurry.
Likewise, it doesn’t have to last all night! Allow the kiss to end naturally.
Perfecting Your Kissing Technique
There are a lot of kissing tips available online, but sometimes you need more than a list of techniques and descriptions. You will learn the best tricks, however, once you have experienced your first kiss and then practiced your second, third, etc.
It’s always better to follow your gut than to follow what a magazine recommends.
Everyone acquires a style of lip-locking with experience, and everyone likes and dislikes different ways to demonstrate affection through kissing. When it comes to first kisses, tongues are pretty much a given, although the trick is to tease them by gently touching them against their tongues, rather than going overboard and being too forceful.
Allow your crush to lead you if in doubt by being gentle, relaxing, and going with the flow.
Sit Back, Relax and Enjoy the Ride
A kissing test does not exist, and you cannot fail your first kiss. You can always learn something from your first experience putting your lips to someone else’s lips, even if it goes horribly wrong. Perhaps you will be able to look back on it later in life and laugh about it.
You can’t mess it up, so don’t worry. Regardless of what your first teenager kiss will be, it will be special in its own right. Don’t worry about it, just relax and enjoy yourself!